Some managers always approach the idea of helping their subordinates. Leaders always want to help their followers.
However, good boys do not always win. The desire to always help everyone can turn against you. The strategy of always trying to be responsive, helpful, and sympathetic to everyone is wrong.
I will give you an example with three situations that will help you change your attitude “to help everyone and everything.”
- When you are responsible for a certain group of people (they can be members of your family, a team headed by you, or an entire organization), do you always have the opportunity to be kind and considerate to everyone, without harming the interests of any of them.
- When you make long-term commitments to develop and maximize your potential and talents, you must understand that this will be at the expense of depriving many other opportunities – to be useful, to have fun, to have more time to relax and relax. Not to mention the regular meetings with the friendly company.
- Finally, when you are fully focused on achieving a goal or intention, being useful cannot remain a top priority for you, because the object of your attention will be your general goal.
Ok, of course, isn’t it obvious ?! – you will say. And you will be wrong. Have you ever thought about the phrase “Good people don’t win”? Why does it even exist? Because a huge number of good people do not understand what I explain in the first part of this article. They do not understand that some obligations must be above their desire to be useful, good, and for everyone to like them.
Yes, there are many things you can always do:
- respect and show others,
- be responsible,
- be honest.
But you can’t always help everyone. You can’t always respond to people who invade your life and ask for a favor. You can’t constantly switch just because someone wants you to focus on something that’s most important to them.
People who can help have long and well understood this. They recognize that when needed, they can be helpful and love and appreciate those moments. But they also understand that they have obligations to many other people who depend on them, not just those who shout the loudest.
